Monday, November 17, 2008

STRAIGHT FLIPPIN' CRAZY

This favorite expression of MP's keeps popping into my head today. I have a few unmarried, childless friends who have all but completely ditched me for their significant others. What's the deal with that? Romantic entanglements come and go, and you need your friends to get you through it all. Am I right? I have one friend who talked about how she got too wrapped up in a previous relationship and let her girls fall to the wayside, and how she never wanted to do that again. So, after beginning her next relationship, I'm guessing she must have witnessed a murder and was either disposed of by the mob or went into a protection program, because lady's disappeared! Another friend of mine continuously makes plans with me and then flakes every time, and it's been going on for months. She just can't leave her man's side for a second! And a third friend suddenly starts calling me every time him and his girlfriend break up and his schedule is suddenly free. I'm sorry, but this is starting to irritate me.

I won't pretend I'm perfect in this area. I do spend a lot of time with my manpanion. But he's not all I've got, and I don't want him to be. (Plus I'm sure he doesn't want that either!) I really enjoy my bike rides, gym excursions, and watching (the new) 90210 with Roommie; the occasional karaoke jam sesh with my GBF; and weekly happy hours with various acquaintances. I wouldn't trade those times for an Argentinian underwear model. Well . . . OK, I wouldn't trade them for almost anything. It's true, sometimes when we all leave the bar (or wherever), I sneak over to MP's to crawl into bed with him. But I think that's actually a reasonable way of dealing with the issue.

Of course I understand the feeling of being in a new relationship: you're gaga, you're insecure, you're straight flippin' crazy at times. But once the trust and confidence start to build, it should be OK to be apart now and then. And if you don't feel secure spending a night apart, well . . . eh, what do I know. But this is my observation (as a friend who feels neglected).


P.S. The Argentinian underwear model appearing in this blog is Ivan De Pineda.
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2 comments:

Melissa said...

Hey Maggie! I hear what you are saying...I have gone through similar times pre-Tom, with Tom and now with both Tom and Alex. One of the things I really value about Tom is that we both allow each other to have at least one night/week to go out with friends or time during the weekend to get out on our own. Even before Alex came along, we often got together with our friends independently (-e.g. it gets boring for me to always hang with Tom and his guy friends and vice versa--you know what I mean?). Even though we do enjoy the time we do get to go out together, we also need our time to hang with our own friends, as well. I don't know why some couples always have to be joined at the hip--I always considered it a sign of insecurity. --Anyway, I'll get off my soapbox now! -Melissa

November 17, 2008 at 9:27 PM
Naomi said...

You could not have said it better there Gizzle. This type of behavior is immature and causes a lot of pain. I think melissa is totally right; it seems to be a sign of insecurity usually. Oh well; "another one bites the dust-ahhhhh...." Oh and thanks so much for including me in your mention of the new 90210. So proud!

November 18, 2008 at 10:41 AM

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